The Connection Between Difficult Decision Making & Trauma

Indecisiveness is something we have all experienced at some point in our lives — whether it’s choosing what you will eat for dinner or what career path you want to pursue. However, when indecisiveness becomes an everyday cycle, it can become overwhelming. This isn’t just about being “bad at making choices” — it can sometimes be a response to trauma.

Why Trauma Can Make Decisions Feel Impossible

When a person experiences trauma such as abuse, neglect, or a life-altering event, their brain and body develop survival techniques. Over time, the fear of making the ‘wrong’ decision can weigh heavily.

Here are 4 signs that your trauma can lead to indecisiveness:

• Fear of consequences - Trauma can lead to those affected feeling unsafe in any situation. The fear of rejection, failure, or punishment can impact what decisions you make.

• Perfectionism - For those affected by trauma, the need to be in control can lead to wanting everything to be ‘perfect’. The pressure to make the ‘perfect’ choice can make it hard to decide at all.

• Low self-esteem - Some people are told that they are not worthy or not capable, which can also lead to feeling uncertain about their decisions.

• Disconnected from their needs - When people go through trauma, they often disconnect with their feelings, which can make it difficult to know what they want.

Steps Toward Healing

If you recognize yourself in these patterns, know that you’re not alone, and it’s not your fault. Healing takes time and support. Here are a few ways you can heal from this: practice self-compassion, start small, tune into your feelings, and seek professional help.

If you’re struggling with indecision and suspect it may be tied to past trauma, you deserve understanding and support. At MM Therapy, we’re here to walk with you through your healing journey — helping you find your voice, your confidence, and your peace.

Ready to take the first step? Contact us today to schedule a session.